How to Deal With a Break Up

Breaking up with the person you love or the mere fact of ending a wanted relationship is probably one of the most difficult things to do but we have to admit, moving on is more of a task.

Most people usually dwell on the fact that their relationship ended rather than dealing with the situation and having some positive mojo.

Here are the 10 ways on how to cope up with a break up or how to move on from an ended relationship.

1. Forget about revenge - Don’t mind your ex-partner and just focus on yourself even just for a while. Revenge won’t help you move on. It will just make things worse for the both of you.
2. Reward yourself - Treat yourself to a movie or to a mug of one hot Starbucks. Most importantly, pamper yourself. You need to do a “myself work” in order for you to have positive energies flowing.
3. Find a new hobby - Search for a new hobby or a new interest so that your attention will be diverted to something else. This will help you focus on a different thing and not about the break up.
4. Connect with other people - Go out with your friends or spend some time with your family. It always matters to remember what matters the most, which is both family and friends. They always got your back through thick and thin.
5. Acceptance - Accept the fact that it is over. You have to face reality with courage.
6. Give yourself time - Allow yourself to heal even if it takes you so long. It is important that you will let all of the wounds heal before having another battle or being committed to another person. Time is the name of the game.
7. Disconnect - Disconnect with your partner to the extremes. Communication with an ex-partner won’t provide you enough space to heal.
8. Music helps - Listen to music that doesn’t help you remember your previous relationship. Music should help you move on and not dwell on the fact that you’re hurt and everything is over.
9. Move on - Surround yourself with people who respect your feelings as much as they respect you as a person. You have to look forward since it what matters the most.
10. Be happy - Let yourself get more out of life. Enjoy and gain some positive mojo. Channel your energies to something that makes you happy and what makes everything worthwhile.

Stages in a Relationship

• STAGE 1: MEETING - This is the first time that the both of you will actually see each other. It will all start with one thing and end up with the both of you having a comfortable time talking. It’s like you have known each other for quite a long time now.
• STAGE 2: CHASE - Some people say that this is the best part. You get to know more about the other person after a series of dates. This is where you answer a “yes” or a “no”.
• STAGE 3: HONEYMOON - When you’re officially a couple, the both of you can do everything. This stage provides that. It is where you can show your affection to your partner and use the pronoun “us”.
• STAGE 4: COMFORTABLE - Being comfortable isn’t necessarily bad. It is where you can be yourself and just show it but it depends on what will you do with that comfort. Some use it positively, helping the relationship grow. Others use it to create distance. You take each other granted or people changing over time. Bottom line is, someone stops trying. The feelings aren’t as strong as before.
• STAGE 5: TOLERANCE - Excuses build up and it can get very disappointing. It can happen gradually and you won’t see it coming. Arguing is one thing but feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with the relationship is another.
• STAGE 6: DOWNHILL - The effort to try and make things work isn’t worth it anymore. 
• STAGE 7: BREAKING UP - Thinking that ending it is what’s for the best. The change will be so drastic that you probably wanted to get back right away just to restore what is missing.

How to Deal With a Break Up

Breaking up with the person you love or the mere fact of ending a wanted relationship is probably one of the most difficult things to do but we have to admit, moving on is more of a task.

Most people usually dwell on the fact that their relationship ended rather than dealing with the situation and having some positive mojo.

Here are the 10 ways on how to cope up with a break up or how to move on from an ended relationship.

1. Forget about revenge - Don’t mind your ex-partner and just focus on yourself even just for a while. Revenge won’t help you move on. It will just make things worse for the both of you.
2. Reward yourself - Treat yourself to a movie or to a mug of one hot Starbucks. Most importantly, pamper yourself. You need to do a “myself work” in order for you to have positive energies flowing.
3. Find a new hobby - Search for a new hobby or a new interest so that your attention will be diverted to something else. This will help you focus on a different thing and not about the break up.
4. Connect with other people - Go out with your friends or spend some time with your family. It always matters to remember what matters the most, which is both family and friends. They always got your back through thick and thin.
5. Acceptance - Accept the fact that it is over. You have to face reality with courage.
6. Give yourself time - Allow yourself to heal even if it takes you so long. It is important that you will let all of the wounds heal before having another battle or being committed to another person. Time is the name of the game.
7. Disconnect - Disconnect with your partner to the extremes. Communication with an ex-partner won’t provide you enough space to heal.
8. Music helps - Listen to music that doesn’t help you remember your previous relationship. Music should help you move on and not dwell on the fact that you’re hurt and everything is over.
9. Move on - Surround yourself with people who respect your feelings as much as they respect you as a person. You have to look forward since it what matters the most.
10. Be happy - Let yourself get more out of life. Enjoy and gain some positive mojo. Channel your energies to something that makes you happy and what makes everything worthwhile.

Long Distance

A lot of people complain about the difficulty of maintaining a long distance relationship. What lacks is the assurance and the trust that your partner will still love you just the same despite of your absence.

Being dealt with a long distance relationship is challenging. You have to adjust to different time zones, whenever applicable, maintain communication and trust.

Here are five tips in order to go through a long distance relationship smoothly:

1. SEPARATE IN GOOD TERMS - Before the both of you lengthen the distance, for whatever reason, make sure that the both of you are in good terms. This will give you the assurance that your partner will not look for someone else.
2. NEVER BREAK PROMISES - If you ever had promises left, never break them. Make sure that you do them and don’t forget them.
3. SCHEDULE COMMUNICATION - The quality and quantity of communication is always important. You should schedule online chat or long distance calls.
4. RAISE YOUR TRUST LEVEL - Since you won’t be able to see each other more, there is a huge tendency that your trust towards your partner will be lowered. For the record, you should increase your trust towards your partner. Disregard stories and rumors, especially the negative ones since this may result to misunderstandings.
5. PRIORITIZE - The key to long-distance relationships is prioritizing what the both of you need. You need to choose between a lot of things but balance is more essential.